They tend to pull away.
The expected response is one of two things.
Either you are supposed to chase.
you are supposed to leave them alone.
I can never quite figure it out, Either I chase and don't say the right thing(apparently)
or leave them alone, assuming I'm smothering them.
The problem as I see it, is that I can reason, that both responses are the correct response for the Response that I want, The relationship to move forward.